"The world is so much harder on victims than they are on abusers, it's shocking to me. When you're going through the hardship and you want to talk about it, then everybody is telling you that you're playing victim. When you're finally able to get out of it and you want to process everything that happened and how you ended up in that situation, everybody says that you're stuck in the victim mentality. So you end up having like this really big thing that happened to you that you can't really talk about because it made people feel uncomfortable and people don't want to feel uncomfortable so they'd rather avoid that and then they call you a survivor and they tell you you're doing great. An abuser, what do they do? Like say sorry, they apologize, they write a letter, people stand up and say that that's not the version of them they knew and suddenly everything is better because everyone deserves a second chance, right? One bad choice or a couple bad choices shouldn't ruin their whole life. Meanwhile, they absolutely ruined your entire life and you've been trying to pull yourself out of a hole since then but nobody wants you to talk about it. Interesting how that works."