"One of the reasons why friendships end is because we let things fester too long. At the initial emergence of your discomfort, you should have expressed that this makes me uncomfortable. I know you want to keep the peace, but I am a firm believer that friendships should be able to handle somebody saying, I don't like that, you know? And it not make things awkward. We should be humble enough and loving enough to be like, oh, babe, I didn't mean to make you feel uncomfortable. I'm so sorry, I won't say that again, right? But again, we don't want to look silly. We don't want to look too sensitive. We don't want to be too vulnerable. But now the pain that you are harboring, the offenses, the things that made you side eye, you're harboring them in your mind. And it's shaping the lens through which you view your friends, right? They, one sly comment about your outfit. Maybe they weren't even trying to be sly, but you took it as, oh, you said I'm ugly. And now it's in your mind, but you won't say, babe, that was a bit harsh. That was rude. That was a bit rude. I actually like this. Do you get what I mean? Because you don't want to say that, you're now going to be feeling uncomfortable for a really long time. And now you're thinking, maybe your friend is actually secretly a hater. And sometimes what we're calling discernment is actually our own suspicion and our own paranoia that's been cultivated because we have not expressed something that someone did a very long time ago that made us uncomfortable. You're just so stupid. And if we had just addressed it in that moment, we would have gotten to the bottom of it. Things would have been a bit different. But now because we didn't, the person is continuing in their bad behavior and it's clouding the entire relationship, but you should have just let them know from the jump. 100%. And I know sometimes we don't always have the language initially, but I think just being able to say like, kind of hurt me a little bit, you know?"